Ever thought about having an affair? If your marriage is stale it might seem like the easy way out. According to the Ashley Madison website, affairs help marriages: “The response we get from our members who have had an affair via the website is that they feel happier, invigorated and transmit that happiness, which actually reinforces and ignites a spark in their marriage relationship.”   

 

But is that the truth? Here are three common myths we found about affairs. 

 

Most studies agree this number is around 20%. Which means 80% of people choose not to cheat on their spouse.  

 

While in this moment you might feel like you could hide an affair forever, at some point your spouse will probably find out. The years of trust you've built together will come to a temporary and painful end for both of you. Forgiveness is possible if both spouses are willing to work on it, but it may take a few years to get your marriage back to a healthy spot. The stress of a cheating spouse often triggers depression or anxiety for your partner.  

 

Hiding an affair takes a lot of time and energy. While that excitement feels good in the moment, it will eventually fizzle out. Here's the problem – all those feelings are about you. What if instead, you took the energy it would take to cheat, and invested that in your spouse, kids and friendships? Take a risk in your relationship and try something you've never done before! Plan a spontaneous trip with your family. Have an extravagant date night at home once the kids are in bed. Go on a trip with your friends you've been putting off.    

 

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